The anticipation of Valentine's Day can be particularly challenging for those experiencing the pain of a recent breakup. Dr. Peggy H. Yang, an assistant professor at Baylor College of Medicine, provides insights on how to navigate this difficult period. According to Dr. Yang, breakups can feel traumatic, but they also present an opportunity for personal growth.
“Breakups can sometimes feel like a trauma, but we can have post-traumatic growth. We want to heal and be in an even better place after we’ve gone through it,” Dr. Yang explains. She emphasizes that support and understanding are crucial components of recovery.
For those struggling with heartbreak, Dr. Yang suggests maintaining physical health by getting sufficient sleep, eating well, and exercising regularly. She advises seeking support from trusted individuals who have one's best interests at heart and reflecting on the healthiness of the past relationship.
“For some of us in times of high stress, we are rejuvenated by being around others, and for others of us we need time alone," she notes. "Make sure you’re getting a balance and checking in with the people around you who know you well."
Valentine's Day often intensifies feelings associated with heartbreak, but Dr. Yang encourages reflection on what the holiday truly means to each individual. Whether it's connecting with friends or treating oneself kindly, she stresses that there is no right or wrong way to handle the day.
“If you feel that you have not been able to move past the constant rumination...then there is perhaps more of an urgency to seek out a clinical assessment,” she advises.
Dr. Yang points out that therapy can be beneficial in processing loss and building future relationships: “Psychotherapy is helpful for recovering from any kind of loss."
She concludes by reminding us all about self-care: “The hope is we don’t just think about others on Valentine’s Day – that one day of the year – whether we’re in a relationship or not, but that we take care of others and ourselves every day.”
